Archive for 12/27/2008


Posted: 12/27/2008 in family

traditions can very easily get on my nerves. yes, they have potential to make me feel warm and fuzzy. more often, i’m frustrated by them. it feels like everything rises and falls on traditions. if the tradition (aka expectation) is not met, then, shwooo you best watch out! 

do i really want to base my holiday happiness on something like this?

how can i make traditions for my family without allowing this into my life/home/family?

eric and i discussed this while we were driving home from a christmas last night in fog that allowed us to drive 35 mph for 60 miles. AH! frustrating! 

any tradition that we establish for our family, we have decided, will not be tied to any one day or order of events. remaining flexible at all times and tying days and order of events seem to be the culprit. instead the fellowship can be the focus instead of the order of events or schedule. 

what do you think?

i feel like there is GREAT potential for establishing traditions that make us (brummer fam) feel like it’s christmas… and still keep all the flexibility needed. 

one thing i’ve really appreciated about our immediate family is their give and take. their respect for each other’s time and respecting our decisions when deciding where to go when. this has made the holidays easier for us.

on occasion it feels like if we don’t arrive at a specific time or when they “always start” then there is tension in the air. this is heavy on my heart. it makes it a tad more difficult for me to keep my family (lizzie, eric and i) first, doing what is best for us as well as accommodating the expectation. i do not want to do this to my children.

i just want to be fully aware of my actions and attitude and do my best! 



Posted: 12/27/2008 in life

we have one more. 

i’m so tired.