Archive for 01/02/2009

ok so here’s a bit more from raising godly tomatoes (can you tell i’m avoiding laundry? is it really that obvious? …yea… i thought so… :} )

elizabeth talks about “mommy radar”. everytime she is annoyed with something that her child does, her mommy radar goes off. she is annoyed by their behavior. she thought for a long time that you are just supposed to ignore it, figure out how to tolerate the annoyance, and wait and hope that “stage” passes soon. (it never passes! only grows into deeper bigger problems/issues) then she goes on to explain! the annoying feeling we feel is “mommy radar” = stop what you are doing and train your child not to do whatever he/she is doing. how easy huh! 

so how do you train this annoying behavior? when they do this act, won’t come when you call them, you immediately stop what you are doing and walk up to them and spank they diapered/clothed bottom. (i didn’t think this was going to do ANY good because she can’t feel much, but this has been MOST affective!!!) walk back to where you were standing before and tell them to come to you. repeat this until they come to you on their own. and praise them and tell them to come the first time they are called. 

i plan to have sessions-of-reminders before going grocery shopping, church, etc. so she is reminded what is expected of her. i shouldn’t need to do this any longer in a couple weeks.

after a few sessions of the above, my daughter, who would not come when called, now comes when called. 

these methods in this book are training your child to obey. not to learn how to do this task or that one, but to obey anything and everything you say no matter the circumstance. 

train them to obey you. train them to pay attention to you and do what you say. – e. krueger

be careful to listen to all these words which i command you. in order that it may be well with you and your sons after you forever, for you will be doing what is good and right in the sight of the lord. deuteronomy 12:28

obedience is just an easy straightforward key to reaching the heart and to changing it. – e. krueger

i don’t know about you, but i want my husband and i to be the ones molding my child’s heart. 

next on my training list:

sit (teach her the act and sign) 

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ps: what training methods do you use/prefer?

 

 

 

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Posted: 01/02/2009 in family, life, marriage, parenting, videos

lizzie and i were fixing lunch and playing catch while listening to casting crowns and this song comes on… and i’m thinking, this was my point exactly with my last blog post “priorities”.  i need to be careful what i give away and make sure my husband and family get the best of me! this is a priority! not just an intention! 

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baby goldfish

Posted: 01/02/2009 in favorites, fun

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have you seen these?! they are a-dorable!!!!! i have fallin in love!

priorities

Posted: 01/02/2009 in family, learning, life, lizzie faith, parenting

i don’t like resolutions. i feel like they are a worldly  way of making you feel better. “i vow to do _____ this year and become a better person by doing it.” “i make this vow, once a year, on new years eve.” i believe we need to be evaluating ourselves and working to be better people in Christ everyday. do i do this everyday like i’d like? ha! no! but i do believe i strive everyday to be the best i can be in today’s circumstances. what more is there? what room is there for resolutions then?? which very rarely are things that you can do and resolve at the end of the year anyway. goals – uum now goals are a different story. i have lots of goals for 2009 brewing in my head; a new house! for one. 

all this new year talk has got me motivated to figure out what my priorities are as a parent. my sister got me this book i requested, for christmas, raising godly tomatoes. maybe you’ve seen it on my favs list on here. i’ve read her website pretty well, but there’s just something about reading her book and underlining what i like and really mentally and physically applying it. 

i’d also like to blog about some of the things this book has taught me so far. it is unreal how this book seems to be validating everything i have felt. all my instincts, all my gut reactions…

i’ve been struck by a brick:

“you cannot enjoy the pleasures of a close, loving relationship with godly children, well-behaved children if  you are not willing to make parenting them your top priority.” -elizabeth krueger

you might think, umm right, “hello! that’s a given”. yes, it is. but everyday i can choose to send my daughter off to her room or her daddy’s office to play by herself for a bit while i indulge selfishly in online shopping, blogging or fb-ing. i can choose to bake something instead of spending extra quality time with my daughter. i can choose all kinds of things that push her away and soon, i feel like asking, “lizzie faith wheeeeeeeere aaaaaaaare yooooooooou!?” and just like when a child runs off to the next aisle at the grocery store and they get scolded for leaving you, that’s what my tendency is, to scold her for running off. but it’s MY fault for putting everything else that i want to do, or that makes me feel domestically successful as a higher priority than her. there is room for all that i want to do to have a clean house and be all domesticated and at no cost to my daughter. i just have to be intentional in doing it. she can cook/bake with me, help me clean, help me sort the laundry, unload the dishwasher… when i do allow her to work with me, she is on cloud 9! it just takes me so much longer. i like to go fast, be efficient and move on. i see the benefit of her helping me, i see her learning and feeling proud of working with mommy and the relationship that builds while doing this.

my priorities are not quantity anymore, they are quality. 

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