ok so here’s a bit more from raising godly tomatoes (can you tell i’m avoiding laundry? is it really that obvious? …yea… i thought so… :} )
elizabeth talks about “mommy radar”. everytime she is annoyed with something that her child does, her mommy radar goes off. she is annoyed by their behavior. she thought for a long time that you are just supposed to ignore it, figure out how to tolerate the annoyance, and wait and hope that “stage” passes soon. (it never passes! only grows into deeper bigger problems/issues) then she goes on to explain! the annoying feeling we feel is “mommy radar” = stop what you are doing and train your child not to do whatever he/she is doing. how easy huh!
so how do you train this annoying behavior? when they do this act, won’t come when you call them, you immediately stop what you are doing and walk up to them and spank they diapered/clothed bottom. (i didn’t think this was going to do ANY good because she can’t feel much, but this has been MOST affective!!!) walk back to where you were standing before and tell them to come to you. repeat this until they come to you on their own. and praise them and tell them to come the first time they are called.
i plan to have sessions-of-reminders before going grocery shopping, church, etc. so she is reminded what is expected of her. i shouldn’t need to do this any longer in a couple weeks.
after a few sessions of the above, my daughter, who would not come when called, now comes when called.
these methods in this book are training your child to obey. not to learn how to do this task or that one, but to obey anything and everything you say no matter the circumstance.
train them to obey you. train them to pay attention to you and do what you say. – e. krueger
be careful to listen to all these words which i command you. in order that it may be well with you and your sons after you forever, for you will be doing what is good and right in the sight of the lord. deuteronomy 12:28
obedience is just an easy straightforward key to reaching the heart and to changing it. – e. krueger
i don’t know about you, but i want my husband and i to be the ones molding my child’s heart.
next on my training list:
sit (teach her the act and sign)
ps: what training methods do you use/prefer?
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Is this something that could be done to older kids(like Hunter’s age…4)? I’m not so good at nipping it in the bud right away, I like to give chances or “grace” but I get frustrated by it. I’m going to have to look up this book I think. I also want to read Leman’s “Making kids mind without losing yours”(have you read it?)….I just wish for a little TIME to read them!
i haven’t. but i like his stuff! i have listened to him speak and have heard lots of good things.
yes, she talks about how to work with older children because she didn’t really start until her three oldest were like 6,4, 2. it is VERY good! to me it sounds like the methods are the same, except, when you ask them to do something and they don’t do it, you spank them, and make them do it with a good attitude and you keep swatting them and telling them until they do it. might take 10 min, but you have to beat their will – or out will them. usually only having to do these types of sessions once or twice depending on how much “undoing” there is.
here is a good section of her website you might be interested in. she will explain it all much better than i! 🙂 http://www.raisinggodlytomatoes.com/ch05.asp
i think it’s tiring while “tomato staking” until you can trust them, but right now, with just lizzie faith and i – it’s easier. i feel very blessed to have been introduced to this so early. sucks being the oldest- pretty sweet deal to be the youngest. 🙂
she said something that really hit me today (will probably blog about it later) but this was very motivating for me to “get real” with this, even more than i already was… “how wonderful to have an adult son who hasn’t lost his temper since he was six (when she had her first and only “session” with him) years old! i have no regrets!”
i want to feel this same way!! 🙂 lmk what you think!!!
Oh Breanna… God has used you. You have no idea how much I needed this little shove to do right by my children. I have sinned. Please pray for our family as we take on the task once again of “raising godly tomatoes”. Bless you.
this is great breanna. i agree with this book so much and look forward to it being a valuable resource for me when i have children. if only i could remember to listen to the words of this book myself. obeying really is the hardest thing to begin to understand when you’re an adult and have been taught to remain independent as a woman and only do “your own thing”…does the book mention anything about that?? 🙂